How to Become Your Own Best Friend: Guide to Self Love


The relationship we have with ourselves is the most important and longest relationship you will ever be in– after all it will last your lifetime. By becoming your own best friend, you are allowing yourself to live to your fullest and truest potential. You will accept your flaws, love your body and have a much healthier positive aspect on life, away from negative and destructive mind sets.

You will find you rely much less on other people as a source of happiness, entertainment or support. This is because as a strong, independent woman you will already have all these qualities within yourself. Therefore, all your current relationships will benefit. Every relationship we have in our lives reflects the relationship we have with ourselves. So by working on and improving this you’ll find you become a much happier person to be around.

However, don’t be alarmed if certain relationships end or fade, certain people in your life may not be able to accept the new positive amazing radiant version of you. But this isn’t such a bad thing, as these people usually aren’t worth keeping anyway.

“You can be your own best friend or your own worst enemy – choose wisely.”

You’ll be able to work through everything life throws at you without giving up; remember goddess, God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers, so you better be prepared for war.

Here are my 3 tips on how to be your own best friend:

Be Kind to Yourself

Would you speak to your best friends the same way you speak about yourself? Would you insult loved ones and scrutinise everything they do? Of course not! So why do it to yourself?

Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend, this means no criticising yourself or beating yourself up. When you find yourself doing this in your head stop yourself. Instead, try and turn it around to a compliment or a positive. Instead of looking in the mirror and picking out all the things you hate, look for all the things you love! Eventually, you won’t have to correct yourself in your head because you’ll just learn to love what you see.

Forgive yourself, no one is perfect, we all have off days and that’s completely normal. Accept that we are all human, we can’t live perfect lives and everyone makes mistakes – that’s just life. But you must pick yourself up and move on with your day if something doesn’t go to plan. When you stop judging yourself and having such high expectations of yourself, that’s when you will find true happiness. Just be kind to yourself– you deserve it.

Seek out Solitude

Society tells us that we should live busy lives, socialising, working, and making time for everyone else without leaving anytime for ourselves. However, enjoying your own company is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Instead of dreading time alone try and welcome it. Taking your ‘ME’ time is so important in learning to love yourself, you’ll feel refreshed, energised and at peace with yourself.

It took me a while to get used to this idea, I used to dread time on my own I felt I was always missing out or bored. I would have done anything so I didn’t have to be on my own. But now I jump at the chance of having a girly night in with myself, it’s my time to rewind, relax and slow down. Always remember- it’s ok to do nothing sometimes!

During my ‘ME’ time, I will write these blog posts, have a long hot relaxing shower or bath, go for a walk and listen to a podcast, write my daily reflective journal or do some yoga. These things nourish my soul, allow me to gather my thoughts, clear my mind and give me chance to reflect on the day.

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Listen to Your Body

The human body is an incredible instrument, we need to learn to take a step back and let it get on with it’s job! By listening to our bodies, we realise what out bodies really need- whether it be more food, less food, or certain foods over others. But by tuning in and listening, it will benefit not only our aesthetics but our mind set too.

This means if you’re feeling tired then acknowledge that, and have some sleep or take a day off the gym. Don’t just have 4 double shot coffees and battle through the day- just rest.

If you’re hungry this is your body telling you it is craving nourishment and fuel. Therefore, feed her and fuel your body so she can live to her fullest potential. This also includes being mindful and listening to your body when she is full, to ensure we aren’t over eating or binge eating.

By truly engaging with what your body wants, you will find naturally she will stop craving all the junk food you think you so badly need. Instead, you’ll find she works much better of whole nutritious foods that provide her with energy and light. This means that you don’t have to worry about diets, restriction or calories and instead focus on listening to your body. What works best for you will never be the same as someone else because you are unique. Take pride in that.

“When you learn to love your own company, you become far more careful about who you spend your time with.”

It isn’t as easy as it may seem, but goddess, don’t give up, be strong and dedicate yourself to becoming your own best friend. I promise you when you do, your life will take an effortless upgrade.

For more tips on self-love and learning to love yourself click here.

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  • Reply Kirstine

    Beautiful post, and so true!! Often we say treat others how you want to be treated – but what would happen if we said the opposite? Treat yourself how you want to treat others?

    September 8, 2017 at 1:53 pm
  • Reply Sharon Then

    I love these tips. Sometimes we just forget to focus on ourselves for a bit. Thanks for the read!

    September 8, 2017 at 5:17 pm
  • Reply Passionate mummy

    Love this. It’s so important to be kind to yourself but it can take a lot of practice. I’m getting there

    September 9, 2017 at 1:28 pm
    • Reply Danielle Louise

      Keep practicing, I know I’m still learning too, but I’m sure it will be worth it in the end!

      September 9, 2017 at 1:48 pm
  • Reply Helen

    Lovely post. I love my “Me” time, can’t think of a better way to restore myself.
    Thanks for sharing!

    September 9, 2017 at 1:38 pm
  • Reply Samra Sammy

    Love this. Sometimes its really hard to be nice to urself especially when things are going down, i need to work on this i know. Thx for this 😉

    September 9, 2017 at 2:14 pm
  • Reply Isabel Freitas

    After I became a mother, I started appreciating my “me” time a lot more than I did before. I used to do just like you said, anything to avoid being on my own. Now, I will do anything to be on my own (just kidding), but I do really appreciate the time I have to myself to think, relax and recharge my energy!

    September 9, 2017 at 5:12 pm
  • Reply Jen

    I think it’s ironic that we would never “speak” to other people like we would ourselves! We really do need to be kinder to ourselves. Love this article, thanks for sharing.

    September 9, 2017 at 6:10 pm
  • Reply BonfireMom

    Beautiful post. There is so much there that I personally need to take on board

    September 10, 2017 at 8:20 am
    • Reply Danielle Louise

      Thank you very much, I hope it helped in some way!

      September 10, 2017 at 10:30 am
  • Reply Valerie Nguyen

    Great tips! I needed these reminders. Thank you.

    Valerie |

    September 16, 2017 at 8:32 pm
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