When I was younger, I used to envy the pretty and popular girls at school because my own insecurities saw them as a threat. However, now I have learnt that as women we need to be empowering each other, raising each other up and guiding each other to self-love. After all, empowered women- empower women!
Looking back, my way of thinking was destructive. I was setting myself up for disappointment by putting myself down and comparing myself to other girls. I can’t believe that girl was me, but I’m sure many of us have been subject to this, often without even realising.
Why can’t we be as nice to each other every day as we are on a night out in the ladies’ room? Everyone is so supportive, complimenting each other’s make-up, and you make 10 new best friends in five minutes.
But unfortunately, we live in a society which makes us feel like we should compete with the women around us. We see it in the media, with articles such as ‘who wore it better?’ comparing women against each other causing rivalry. When really, we should be empowering the women around us and never comparing ourselves to anyone else.
“Real queens fix each other’s crowns.”
Some women also struggle to accept compliments off other women. We need to listen to compliments and truly accept them with love. Don’t let your insecurities take over, because appreciating your own beauty is the first step to being able to empower other women around us. You have to belive you are worthy of kind words to accept them and give them to others.
It might feel ‘put on’ at first, but soon it will become a natural part of who you are. Start by telling the women closest to you how much you appreciate them and love them. Tell your mum she is your role model. Let your sister know you love her smile and she makes you laugh. Or tell your best friend she looks amazing in her new pair of jeans.
The when you have mastered that, spread love to all the women around you! Smile at women you walk past, compliment a strangers outfit, and tell the girl on the train you love her hair!
“There is one thing more powerful than magic, and that is sisterhood.”
All women need affection and compliments, it makes them feel good about themselves. By spreading love generously to other women, you will notice how your life becomes filled with so much more love and happiness. Then from this happiness you’ll begin to appreciate your own beauty too.
Of course, there’s some women we won’t get on with and that’s ok too. But by empowering women instead of being envious, you will have a much healthier happier mind set.
“Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.”
I’ve made it my goal currently to compliment other women, even if I don’t know them. I comment on other girl’s photos on social media and if there’s something I love about them – I will tell them. If I love your outfit, make-up, hair or just your sense of humour, I will tell you! It will not only brighten someone else’s day, but yours too and you’ll begin to receive just as many compliments back.
Gone are the days I hated other girls at school because my insecurities made me feel threatened by them. I am now proud to be surrounded by so many wonderful, strong, brave and beautiful women. Instead of feeling threatened by other women, I now find them empowering, motivating and inspiring.
Can you imagine what the world would be like if all women took this information on board? A world where we appreciate each other’s differences and strengths which build us up and make us stronger. That’s a world I would like to live in, how about you?