Top Tips for Introverts and Being an Introvert: Guide to Self Love


“You’re so quiet” “You’re so anti-social” “I forgot you were even here”

Does this sound familiar? Growing up I was always told I was shy. I was the quiet girl in class and I would pray that I never got picked on to answer a question or speak in front of the class. But as I have grown up, I have realised I’m not shy, stuck up or anti-social. I’m just an Introvert.

  • I enjoy my own company and would much rather have a night in than out.
  • When meeting new people, I hate small talk but could talk for hours about deep and meaningful subjects.
  • To those closest to me I seem mental and crazy but I hate being embarrassed in public.
  • For me, team work is distracting and instead I can work much better when I am alone and in quietness.
  • I’m awful at physically comforting people when they’re upset but a great listener.
  • I choose my friends carefully, but those relationships I do have run deep and will last a lifetime.
  • After a busy day, I need time to re-charge and chill (usually in my PJs and on the sofa).
  • I am a massive routine whore and hate being unorganised or unprepared for anything.
  • At a party, I’ll most likely be making friends with the dog.
  • Finally, I have a KILLER resting bitch face.

If any of these traits sound like you, here are my 5 top tips for being an introvert:

Accept Who You Are

To embrace who you are, you must first truly accept who you are. Love your traits, and realise that it is what makes you- YOU. You are loved for being you, so embrace that you are an introvert and see it as a positive attribute. The sooner you accept it is just who you are, the easier the rest of these tips will be.

“Don’t underestimate me because I am quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.”

Learn to Say NO

You’re allowed to put yourself first. If there’s a something you don’t want to do then don’t go. If it’s going to cause you worry and stress then ask yourself if it’s worth it. Those that understand and care will support you no matter what, and those that don’t aren’t worth your time anyway. But don’t push people away or become unreliable. Always make time for those closest to you and those who appreciate who you truly are.

“An introverts desire for solitude is more than just a preference it is crucial to our health and happiness.”

Don’t Compare Yourself

Other people aren’t you so why compare yourself to them? The people we see on TV, social media and in the spot light are often extroverts, the complete opposite to me and you. So why compare yourself to them? They are often loud, confident and outgoing and that is fine but do not wish yourself to be any other way. No one is you and that is your power.

“Being alone is a power that very few people can handle.”

Focus on your Strengths

You might not be the loudest one in the room but there is so much more to you than that. Because you don’t speak as much people will often value your opinion much more. People will trust your say, come to you for advice and love deep conversations with you. Introverts are often great writers too because they find writing much easier and natural to them than speaking. If that is a strength of yours, work with it!

As an introvert, you will also be great at studying people, observing body language and building deep meaning full relationships. You may only have a few close friends and family but that’s all you need because your relationships are so strong.

Introverts are also very creative and hard workers. When alone, they can really concentrate and focus which often means they can get much more done. Having a great work-ethic and time management is a huge strength so utilise this and stand out from the crowd.

“Your introversion is a gift that doesn’t need to be fixed or cured.”

Put Yourself Out There

It may be scary, but sometimes you must put yourself out there. To life your life to the fullest, sometimes you must do things outside your comfort zone. That is how we grow, expand and learn. By focusing on your strengths as an introvert, you can work with them to put yourself out there and make a difference.

Recently, I have started posting much more frequently on social media about my business and passion, this is something that previously would have embarrassed me. But I have used this platform as a way of showing off my writing, knowledge, experiences and content. My pages don’t have the best selfies on the internet, but there is great content which will hopefully help people. I may not get as many views or shares as the extroverts which show off their muscles and bums, but I am gaining followers that are people who care about what I say.

“Be so good they can’t ignore you.”

Putting yourself out there might be scary at first, but work with it and see it as an opportunity to grow. Don’t let being labelled as shy or quiet affect you, instead own it and see it as a positive. It is your little advantage over any one else because it creates your strengths and you can use these in your favour. But most importantly, it is what makes you- YOU. Don’t ever change or feel inferior because you aren’t as outgoing as some people, it is your secret super power!

“You should be afraid of the quiet ones. They are the ones who actually think.”

Read more of my Guide to Self Love Series Here.


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  • Reply Rafi Nandi

    This is so relatable AF! I hate teamwork, I really do. But I wouldn’t a small company who would do a deep yet meaningful conversation and stuff. Also, when it comes to teamwork, I prefer in small group. Not exceeding three people (including me).

    October 5, 2017 at 12:26 pm
    • Reply

      Yes me too, exactly! Sound very similar, hope you enjoy the post! Thanks for reading!

      October 5, 2017 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Ashley

    I have been an introvert all my life and this hit home for me. It’s a hard thing to face but once you embrace it and love yourself, it all works out in the end. Thanks for sharing!

    October 5, 2017 at 5:08 pm
    • Reply

      Exactly, you have to accept who you are and work with it! Thanks for reading, I hope it helped!

      October 5, 2017 at 6:11 pm
  • Reply Erinna

    Love this post! As an introvert I definitely agree with what you wrote! Haha I thought it was funny what you wrote about the extroverts and their selfie photos. I hate taking selfies!! I wonder how some people seem to be so good at it! I liked the quotes that you shared too:) so awesome!

    October 5, 2017 at 6:05 pm
    • Reply

      Yes me too, very camera shy! I’ve often wanted to stat vlogging but hate the sound of my voice on camera, but I’m working on it! Thanks, for reading, I hope it helped in some way!

      October 5, 2017 at 6:12 pm
  • Reply Bronke

    as a introvert muself I can honestl say, this is absolutely true!!! great post!

    October 7, 2017 at 8:43 am
    • Reply

      Thank you that means a lot! Hope you enjoyed the post!

      October 7, 2017 at 9:38 am
  • Reply Scarlet

    I used to always feel pressured to speak louder and more often..I stopped it is way to much work to be what other people want you to be! You like me or you don’t either way my life goes on 😉

    I love your blog btw!

    October 10, 2017 at 10:34 am
    • Reply

      Yes exactly! Love that attitude! Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed it!

      October 10, 2017 at 1:44 pm
  • Reply Jaimi

    Congratulations! I have nominated you for ‘The Bloggers Recognition Award’ Below is the link, please comment on this post if you choose to accept 😀

    October 10, 2017 at 5:29 pm
  • Reply Hamna

    I sit in the bus next to an extrovert. She keeps asking why so quiet? Are you sick? Why worry so much? Why can’t you shout at the bully? Why dont you come online on fb? Where are your selfies? Why is your cats name your instagram profile name? Tbh shes really sweet and she wants me to come out of my hole but you know u can never explain extroverts the delicate and precociously queit life you live is what you enjoy. I really love what you wrote there especially the bullet points in the starting cuz they define me. I promise next time on the bus i wont feel less of myself ill try to laugh along with my extrovert friend and build strong base from who i am.

    October 10, 2017 at 9:32 pm
    • Reply

      That’s lovely, it comforting to know we aren’t alone and it’s perfect normal isn’t it! Yes make an effort to understand each other and like each other for your own individual personalities! After all opposites do attract! Thanks for reading, I hope it helped!

      October 11, 2017 at 8:02 am

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