Surround Yourself with Likeminded People: Guide to Self-Love


Ever heard the saying “Your vibe attracts your tribe?” Well it is completely true! As humans, we are pack animals. We thrive off other people and need other likeminded people for support and encouragement. That’s why it’s so important that the people you have in your life effect you positively and support you no matter what.

Think of your 5 closest friends, are they on the same page as you? Do they support you? Or do you feel like they hold you back? Think about how each friend treats and affects you, is it in a positive or negative way?

I myself have found that the thing with fitness is, not everyone understands. Not everyone gets why I love going to the gym so much or why I’m so interested in Nutrition. But I’ve accepted that, and I can now say that I have a small group of friends that fully support me and are there for me no matter what. However, in the process of doing what lights me up and following my dreams, I have lost some friends along the way. But if they couldn’t support me during my struggles, weaknesses and now doing what I love, they probably weren’t worth keeping anyway!

Top Tips for Surrounding Yourself with Likeminded People:

Out with the Old

Before you can be fully surrounded by amazing likeminded people that boost you up, you might have to get rid of the ones that don’t. If there are people in your life that suck all living happiness out of you when you see them, or don’t support and like you for who you truly are… get rid! I don’t mean forget about them forever, just try and distance yourself for a while and see how you feel. Chances are you will start to feel happier and can begin living your true self.

Be Yourself

If you aren’t being your true self you will just keep attracting the wrong people. You must fully embrace who you are, and accept that to attract your people. You must embrace your weirdness and let your crazy out. When you do, amazing things will happen. You’ll feel so much more fantastic and free, you’ll only have people in your life who love you for who you truly are. Which then means you’ll have more space in your life to attract people with the same kind of weird as you.

When I embraced my weird – became a fitness lover that spent more time at the gym than anywhere else. I attracted my boyfriend, Sam, who saw me for who I truly am (gym clothes, pineapple hair and a sweaty mess). But he still says today that the first time he saw me at the gym, he felt something very special and knew I was going to be his girlfriend one day.

“We are all a little weird and life is a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” – Dr.Seuss

Put Yourself Out There

It’s so important to put yourself out there and make friends with likeminded people. Through social media, I am getting to know so many amazing young women with similar interests and it is amazing. We are all so supportive of each other and I would talk to them about anything.

Although, this can be hard and take time, when I first started in the Fitness industry I lost much more friends than I gained. I was alone, no one understood and I honestly felt like the odd one out. But, through networking myself and putting myself out there I have made so many lovely friends and I am surrounded by so many likeminded positive and motivating people.

Do it For you

Spending time with people who bring out the best in you is an act of Self-Love. Just as distancing yourself from those that don’t is too. When you begin to say NO to the people you don’t want to be around, you begin to say YES to yourself.

So, call in YOUR people because they’re out there somewhere. The ones that are the same kind of weird as you. The one’s that want you to win and feel it when you fall. The one’s that light you up no matter what and you don’t know how you previously got through life without them.

You can read more on why it’s important to Put Yourself First sometimes here.


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  • Reply Samantha Rogers

    What an inspirational read Danielle, its a revelation to read all this.
    It is so true too, people come into your life like chapters in a book, they can come in for good reason or for you to learn something, I do love your blogs.

    October 8, 2017 at 3:01 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you very much!

      October 8, 2017 at 5:45 pm
  • Reply Naomi Destiny

    So true! Surrounding myself with positive and like-minded people has always been key for me. Thanks for sharing!

    October 9, 2017 at 9:52 am
    • Reply

      Yes always! Hope it has helped. Thanks for reading!

      October 9, 2017 at 9:57 am
  • Reply Ankit


    October 9, 2017 at 9:59 am
    • Reply

      Thanks for reading, hope it helped!

      October 9, 2017 at 10:25 am
  • Reply Tisha

    Putting yourself out there isn’t easy for a lot of people but definitely worth it- something I’m making a conscious effort to do much more of! Great tips- thanks for sharing!

    October 9, 2017 at 10:24 am
    • Reply

      I completely agree, I was afraid to do it for so long, but so glad I built up some courage! Thanks for reading, I hope it helped!

      October 9, 2017 at 10:26 am
  • Reply Ramona Spires

    Love your post! It so important to surround yourself with like-minded people. Let getting go of people who do nothing but drain you will be the best thing for you.

    October 9, 2017 at 12:46 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you, yes it so important! Hope you enjoyed the post, thanks for reading!

      October 9, 2017 at 1:54 pm
  • Reply Ursula

    This is so true! Thanks for sharing this wonderful post.

    October 9, 2017 at 3:54 pm
    • Reply

      Thanks for reading, hope it helped!

      October 9, 2017 at 7:01 pm
  • Reply Stephanie Rodriguez

    Love this post I’m a firm believer of this, great write!

    October 9, 2017 at 4:01 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you for reading, hope it helped!

      October 9, 2017 at 7:01 pm
  • Reply Sarah Harradine

    Fab post and so true! I don’t have time for people who I don’t vibe with anymore.

    October 9, 2017 at 4:18 pm
    • Reply

      Exactly! Thanks for reading, hope it helped!

      October 9, 2017 at 7:01 pm
  • Reply Trasetta Alexander | Productivity Coach

    Your post is confirmation of the process I have been going through. I told my husband several months ago that I wanted to expand my circle. I have some big, bold goals and I know I need likeminded women in my circle to help push me beyond my current circumstance.

    October 10, 2017 at 4:21 pm
    • Reply

      That’s great and so positive to hear! By surrounding yourself with positive, uplifting and likeminded people you will push yourself beyond you wildest dreams! Thanks for reading!

      October 10, 2017 at 6:12 pm

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