Becoming Your Best Self: Guide to Self-Love

Becoming Your Best Self - Guide to Self-Love

If you have been following my blog over the past few months, you’ll know that I have been running a series of blog posts called the Guide to Self-Love. I want to share with you all how important it is to love yourself and live as your best self. Through doing this, I have let go of my bad relationship with food, become the happiest I have ever been and learnt to not give a sh*t about what other people think.

Previously, I would have never even dared to start a blog because of the fear of being judged by others. Now I OWN IT, I’m doing what I love, working my ass off and reaping the benefits. I want to share with you how you too can do just that, so..

Here are my Top Tips for Becoming Your Best Self:

Let Go of Negativity

In order to live as the best you, your mind needs to think as the best you too. If you have an attitude of “nothing goes right in my life” or “this could only happen to me” then that is what you will get in return. Your mind creates your reality. Therefore, by thinking negatively your whole energy suddenly become negative. Being negative can hold you back from so many things in life, especially happiness and living as your best self.

But I know how it feels to be stuck in a negative mind-set and I know how hard it can be to snap out of it. So, here are a few tips to let go of that negativity:

  • Practice gratitude:By focusing on the aspects of your life or day that you are grateful for, your whole mindset will change. Say a few things you are grateful for before bed or write them down daily in a planner or journal.
  • Stop complaining: We all do it and it makes us human, but try to cut back on the moaning. Complaining literally never helped anyone ever, it is just very annoying to the people around you. Make a mental note every time you complain and you’ll soon realise that it is unnecessary and cut back.
  • Reflect: Sometimes negativity can come from a place of unhappiness. Ask yourself what is making you unhappy? What would you like to change? How can you improve your life? For me, this was leaving a university course that made me stressed and anxious… if this sounds like you click here to read why following your dreams is so important for your happiness.

Be Kind

Being kind to others literally costs nothing. Yet, can make you feel amazing as well as the other person too. Even if it is just saying thank you, please or excuse me.. it’s the easiest thing you can do to become your best self. Remind yourself that you have no idea what other people are going through in their lives and empathise that.

Also, empowered women- empower women! Spread love to the women around you and let them know how amazing they are and I guarantee you’ll feel so much better for it. It will not only brighten someone else’s day, but yours too and you’ll begin to receive just as many compliments back. You should feel proud to be surrounded by so many wonderful, strong, brave and beautiful women. Instead of feeling threatened by other women, aim to find them empowering, motivating and inspiring.

Can you imagine what the world would be like if all women took this information on board? A world where we appreciate each other’s differences and strengths which build us up and make us stronger. That’s a world I would like to live in, how about you?

“In a world where you can be anything, be Kind.”

Live Authentically

You do you girl. It can take a long time to figure out who and what we want to be and fully be comfortable in our own skin. But when you finally get there, do it unapologetically. When you know what it is you want to do, never apologise or hide who you truly are. Show it to the world because nobody will be able to do it like you when you’re doing what you’re supposed to.

Unique, weird, different, authentic people are the BEST kind of people. They are the ones that believe in and are confident in what they do and are ready to make a difference. How can you be your BEST self, if you’re not even being yourself?

To read more about following your dreams and living authentically click here.

Don’t Give a Sh*t

If you care too much about what other people think, you’ll never be your BEST self. Because truth is being your best self is probably going to push you out of your comfort zone. You need to be prepared to not care about the opinions of others and trust yourself. Let go of other’s opinions, let go of the fear of failure, let go of pre-conceived opinions of yourself and let go of comparison to others.

How can you become your best self if you are constantly doubting your abilities, self-worth, skills, etc. because you’re afraid of what others think? Sometimes it’s ok to be selfish, put yourself first and not care about other’s opinions. Then you’ll truly be unapologetically living as your BEST self.

To read more about being selfish and putting yourself first click here.

Love Yourself

This is a big one. You need to love yourself. It will not come easy and it may take time. But to live as your best self it is something you will need to work on.

An easy way to start would be to speak positively to yourself. Every time you look in a mirror instead of pulling yourself apart and criticizing yourself, look for things you LOVE. Say one thing you love about yourself and repeat this over in your head. Here are some examples:

  • I am a beautiful and strong. I can tackle anything that comes my way today.
  • I am a confident person. I am going to rock it today.
  • I am going to be my best self today. I will stay positive and kind.
  • I am going to have an amazing day. Nothing will crush my positive mood.
  • My outfit is on point today. I feel confident and beautiful.

Any kind of affirmation that makes you feel good about yourself, is perfect. Make it your own. I promise it will change your mind-set about yourself and your life.


Self-care is simply about taking good care of YOU. Doing things to improve your mood, make you feel amazing and brighten your day. It could be as simple as running yourself a bath, going for a walk or buying yourself a treat. But self-care is a responsibility, you need to do it to appreciate yourself, love yourself and be happy in your own skin. The more time you dedicate to taking care of yourself, the closer you will be to living as your best-self. You’ll also find every other relationship you have in your life will benefit too, because you can’t pour from an empty cup. You must take care of yourself first.

You can read my 10 top ways to practice self-care here.

So, they are my tips to start your journey to becoming your best self. If you incorporate a few of these into your life, I guarantee you’ll notice a positive change in yourself and your life. Becoming your best-self is so unique to you, but by using these rules as a guide, tailor them to yourself and your own goals.

Let me know in the comments below what other ways you work on becoming a better you and live as your best-self.

Or, you can read more of my guide to self-love here.

Becoming Your Best Self Guide to Self Love


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  • Reply Heather

    I love this. And I really needed this advice right now. Thank you so much for sharing!!

    October 27, 2017 at 3:16 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you so much, I hope it has helped in some way!

      October 27, 2017 at 6:28 pm
  • Reply sarah

    The tips above are so true. Loving yourself is the best way to practice self care.

    October 27, 2017 at 3:20 pm
    • Reply

      Exactly, thanks so much for reading, I hope it helped!

      October 27, 2017 at 6:28 pm
  • Reply Angela - A Serene Pursuit

    I love this! Everything you touch on is spot on. It’s definitly not easy implementing a big mindset and lifestyle change, but the more you try the easier it gets.

    October 27, 2017 at 4:22 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you so much, that means the world! Exactly, we can all start somewhere and even small changes will make such a big difference! Thanks for reading!

      October 27, 2017 at 6:28 pm
  • Reply Britne D.

    I absolutely love this post! Everything about it! I’ve shared it to a couple of blogging groups I’m apart of on Pinterest!

    October 27, 2017 at 5:34 pm
    • Reply

      Thank you so much, that means the world! Glad you loved it, feel free to share as much as you like!

      October 27, 2017 at 6:27 pm
  • Reply Jaclyn

    Something that I have been consciously trying to work on it less complaining! There is a time for venting and asking for help, but it spreads negativity too quickly.

    October 27, 2017 at 5:45 pm
    • Reply

      Completely agree, we all need to do it sometimes but not as much as we do no doubt! Thanks for reading!

      October 27, 2017 at 6:26 pm

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